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My name is Lucie, I am about to divorce, I am frightened and confused, I have consulted a Sol. and even more frightened. I have been married for 38yrs. and about to have my home taken away from me, I go to bed a at night and my heart is pounding. I am hoping this forum may help me, I dread the thought of going to court. My husband has told his Sol. I have a lot of cash stashed away, this is not true, how will I be able to prove this. My children are disgusted with him. Lucie.

Hi Lucie,
Welcome to wiki...yes! this forum will indeed be very helpful.

Blimey! 38 yrs!!!

To help you sleep better tonight; do not be put off by his financial intimidation: why should you believe you're about to lose your home?

Hi Lucie
Welcome to wiki,
Try not to panic, if you post a few more details there will be someone that can give you advice.

Dont be intimidated, or bullied.

We are a friendly lot here and will offer as much support as you need to help you get through this.

When you are ready and if you feel you want to, tell us your story. It helps to write it down and share it with others.

zara

Hi Lucie
You sound quite scared at the moment, I think if you can read as much as possible and get the knowledge it will make you feel stronger. If you dont have any money 'stashed' you dont have to prove you dont, he has to prove you do I think, may be wrong, someone correct me if I am but I'm sure thats how the law works. you were married a long time so it will feel strange for a while. just try to keep yourself occupied and do things that maybe you wouldnt have been able to do while you were married, pamper yourself a bit. You say you are going to lose your home, your solicitor will make sure you get everything you are entitled to I'm sure. if you are unclear about things you should ask, all the best

Thanks for reply, I am just sat here crying my eyes out at the moment, feeling sorry for myself.

I feel life is so unfair.

He is demanding 50/50 and I have been the main breadwinner, if it wasn't for me we wouldn't be living in the house we have.

He has this girlfriend and he now has no loyalty to me, it is so hurtful.

I have always looked after him ( very well) that has all been forgotten.

Sorry about the rant, I have had some wine, maybe shouldn't post when drunk ( a bit) only two glasses.

Lucie

lucie wrote:

shouldn't post when drunk ( a bit) only two glasses.

Lucie,
if that was a ruke - this place would probably not contain anything worth reading.

You'll get through this. It's early days. What he 'demands' and what he gets is two different things. What ages are your children, are they resident?

I have known about this for nearly a year now, I have threatened to seek advice of Sol. hoping things would fizzle out between them, but they have not, so I have consulted a Sol. and I suppose it has brought me into "reality".

I have to stop living in a dream world, and get things moving, as I can't live like this for much longer. I know I have to move on, this will involve losing my home, as I can't afford to buy him out. This is what I feel devastated about.

Lucie

ps many thanks for your replies, I don't feel quite so alone now.