Hello - New Here

Well its a week on since we told the children and it has been an interesting week.

Firstly I had a long talk with my daughter in Tuesday night, it was really nice, just sat on the sofa and talked for hours. She is not so upset now but angry with what is happening, she blames my wife for it all....I do all I can to listen but also balance it by saying that her mum is a good person and loves them, I am very careful to not agree when she slates her mum.

Her feeling is that my wife has changed so much over the last 2 years that she is no longer the person she knew as her mum and feels that she has no time for any of the family.

She has also been speaking wth my son, he is OK and seems to be happy to talk to his sister. They both feel that it would be much better if my wife moved out and stopped trying to play happy families while at the same time tlking about selling the house and sleeping elsewhere or in the spare room. When we do move to a new house, they want to keep the two seperate, they go visti my wife and then come home, they don't want her coming around in the morning to take them to school.


Also this week, I went out on Monday night, when I told my wife she said she would take the children out for dinner as she had not spoken to them since telling them. I came in from work on Monday night to find that she was cooking, apparantly the children had already planned what was for dinner. The next day I checked with my daughter what they did for the rest of the night and the answer was nothing, they went to their rooms and my wife drank wine downstairs. This I find strange (and my daughter), she had the chance to spend time with the children but would prefer to drink 2 bottles of wine....but at the same time cmplain that the children do not need her.

This is turning into a long post, so I will call this part 1 and come back later