Sad, lonely and confused

good morning

and it is a good morning, it is a great morning, believe me.

i have been where you are now. i had my ex back, oh so so so many times. it has been 6 months since i last had him back and would i have him back now - not in a breath! i am glad i did have him back all those times because it helped put closure. your ex is the one with the problem - not you! believe me, one day you will see that.

i too have been unable to sleep because i have been waiting for my 18 year old daughter to text telling me she had got back to her friend's house after a night out safe and sound. but do you know what, its great being in the place i am at now, hard work with 3 teenage girls, loads of animals, but peace. every morning i wake up and say four simple words "thank God Im free" and i promise you, you will too. one day you will see the weazal for what he truly is.

the woman he is with now will have no peace, she will always be wondering whether he will mess her about as he did you.

As for friends, i was married to my ex for 20 years and had NO friends, just a few acquaintances, NO family to turn to. yes, its absolutely awful and horrible and you feel insecure and hurt and sad and so many emotions are going through your head, but trust me one day you WILL smell the coffee and say those words "thank God Im free" - free of all the hassle being with him brought.

Clean, clean clean, eat, walk, sing and dance to music, do watever each day that will help you get through it. one day you will be singing naturally like I do every morning. trust me

Thanks so much for your reply... I look forward to the day when I can feel just like you. I'm still crying and look absolutely terrible today. My 12yr old Son has been home from school all week with an ear infection (he's deaf) so at least I don't have to put on "my face" to go out. I can just stay in today and rest. I have been through so much in my life, I was in a womans aid refuge with 3 children and broken bones 14 yrs ago, so I should be able to get through this! I just invested so much effort into this person and so much love has been wasted, I wonder if I will ever trust a man agian.

You are in such a positive place now that it gives me great hope for my future. x

hi

i know exactly how you feel. you feel worthless, ugly, stupid. but it is not you who is all these things. it is him. he is inadequate and pathetic and you will soon realise it.

take time out now to feel sorry for yourself, stay in the house, cry your eyes out, eat or don't eat (but make sure you drink loads), sleep or read, go get yourself a little kitten/puppy even hamster and see how it plays and loves life. i am telling you now if you had a kitten next to you playing with every loose threat it sees and just enjoying life, you would not be able to help yourself from smiling.

a puppy (if you have time to walk it) will get you out of the house - you have no choice because the puppy needs to walk and experience the outside. fresh air is a tremendous healer. if you are unable to get a kitten/puppy, get a hamster and watch it on its wheel.

why do i know all the above? because that is what I did. however, being a woman where one is never enough! i got puppy after puppy after puppy after puppy. yes thats right. i now have four dogs - 3 of whom are bichons and one who is a siberian husky. i already had 3 cats, but sadly one was killed in the road a few months ago, so i went out and got a kitten - such joy, such fun. believe me.

and it will get better. one day you are going to lie in that big bed of yours and think that this is great, the loser will no longer figure in your life. trust me

Hi Angeldust,

Please dont be sad and lonely, take a trip to wikiville....see you there........


I got tickets to fly to the city of regrets on Wish I Had airlines. It was an extremely short flight. I got my baggage, which I could not check. I chose to carry it myself all the way. It was weighted down with a thousand memories of what might have been. No one greeted me as I entered the terminal to Regret City International Airport. I say international because people from all over the world come to this dismal town.

As I checked into the Last Resort Hotel, I noticed that they would be hosting the year's most important event, the Annual Pity Party. I wasn't going to miss that great social occasion. Many of the towns leading citizens would be there.

First, there would be the Done family, you know, Should Have, Would Have and Could Have. Then came the I Had family. You probably know ol' Wish and his clan. Of course, the Opportunities would be present, Missed and Lost. The biggest family would be the Yesterdays. There are far too many of them to count, but each one would have a very sad story to share.

Then Shattered Dreams would surely make an appearance. And It's Their Fault would regale us with stories (excuses) about how things had failed in his life, and each story would be loudly applauded by Don't Blame Me and I Couldn't Help It.

Well, to make a long story short, I went to this depressing party knowing that there would be no real benefit in doing so. And, as usual, I became very depressed. But as I thought about all of the stories of failures brought back from the past, it occurred to me that all of this trip and subsequent "pity party" could be cancelled by ME!

I started to truly realize that I did not have to be there. I didn't have to be depressed. One thing kept going through my mind, I CAN'T CHANGE YESTERDAY, BUT I DO HAVE THE POWER TO MAKE TODAY A WONDERFUL DAY. I can be happy, joyous, fulfilled, encouraged, as well as encouraging. Knowing this, I left the City of Regret immediately and left no forwarding address. Am I sorry for mistakes I've made in the past? YES! But there is no physical way to undo them.

So, if you're planning a trip back to the City of Regret, please cancel all your reservations now. Instead, take a trip to a place called, Starting Again aka wikiville. I liked it so much that I have now taken up permanent residence there. My neighbours, the I Forgive Myselfs and the New Starts are so very helpful.

By the way, you don't have to carry around heavy baggage, because the load is lifted from your shoulders upon arrival. God bless you in finding this great town. If you can find it -- it's in your own heart -- please look me up. I live on I Can Do It Street feel free to pm me.

Elle xx