Absolutely devastated :-(

You have a few things to be thankful for...

No children involved, no expensive divorce to go through, and it sounds like you have your own place and are employed.

I know none of that takes away the pain you are feeling, but it does make life a whole lot simpler.

All you can do now is take one day at a time, and keep yourself busy, that is how I get through times of hurt. Through the deaths of my parents I got engrossed in video games whenever I had nothing else to do.

When my marriage broke down I spent time with my children, trying to help them cope with it all. Also as I left the home I had a lot to organise and that kept me busy too.

No doubt your ex will do the same to this new woman.

Snowdrops

You were honest, and I can understand your hurt and pain. When someone leaves you for another person it hurts, big time.

I am sure you trusted him and thought that he was being honest with you, but he has proved that he has not.

You are going to have to try and get your life back, get through this and move on.

The pain he has caused you now, would have been much worse if you had married and had children.

He is s cereal womaniser, and has dumped you too.

Chuck him to the gutter, and find yourself a new life.

zara

We don't have children together, however, he's been with me 5 years, came when my daughter was 15. She's been great but she too is devastated as he really bonded with her and treated her as his own.

The worse part is that I have to drive past his place, their place ! of work every day to get to work myself. As he's british transport police he is based at my local train station. Everytime I want to catch a train anywhere I know I'll be within 30 seconds of him. It's going to be torture and I don't know how to handle that part.

He will keep doing the same thing until someone does it to him and believe me it will happen, the funny thing is when it does you will not care either way. When he left his wife for you i bet she would have loved to see you fall flat on your face but when she hears what he has done to you she will no doubt feel sympathy for you. The answer is that although it will take time , you will get to feel better and if you ever have another relationship then be a bit more selective about the kind of person you choose .

Learningfast wrote:

The answer is that although it will take time , you will get to feel better and if you ever have another relationship then be a bit more selective about the kind of person you choose .

Snowdrop. And these words above is the most important message for you. I would print it out and stick it on the fridge. Never be a stepping stone again. C

Sorry you've been hurt..unfortunately no good comes from affairs with people married or not..

My stbx hubby was a cheat. (when we got together he was single but seeing a married woman) 3 kids and a decade on seems he's screwed away the whole way through...once a cheat always a cheat..he can do it to be with you and he can do it to you!

The girls he cheated with were aware he was married and if you have that knowledge makes it worse (not havin a go, just being honest)

If i were you I would lay it on the line next time..married/with someone...is not acceptable! You deserve so much more..being the other woman isn't a nice title to hold..

Puds xx

Puddytat wrote:

Sorry you've been hurt..unfortunately no good comes from affairs with people married or not..

My stbx hubby was a cheat. (when we got together he was single but seeing a married woman) 3 kids and a decade on seems he's screwed away the whole way through...once a cheat always a cheat..he can do it to be with you and he can do it to you!

The girls he cheated with were aware he was married and if you have that knowledge makes it worse (not havin a go, just being honest)

If i were you I would lay it on the line next time..married/with someone...is not acceptable! You deserve so much more..being the other woman isn't a nice title to hold..

Puds xx

Very true words Puds. Leopards dont change there spots. And this comes down to core values. There is something wrong with people that have afairs with marrieds. They must know what they are doing and the damage that is cuased by there actions. Wrecked families. Damaged people (sometimes for life). These people are selfish. And the golden rule is never get involved with anyone that has either cheated, been violent and so on. Pass these people by. C