wife wants to leave me

Good point. My divorce was eventually followed by the death of both my parents one after the other. Keeping it together through that was actually helped by my kids, which helps me keep it together to help them.

fantastic - that's the way to go, my man

it's good that you're recognising what is priority - you and your kids...

your GP will see you at short notice I'm sure

be strong (easier said than done, i know) but it'll get better I promise you

dd

Puddytat wrote:

Hi, welcome to Wiki!

I think the "i don't love you anymore" is a very commen theme..it's what they say when they can't put a finger on anything particular.


Puddytat

well put - in my case she (petitioner) said that she had enough - that is why I responded about the 'bottling up' bit - she, and quite often I, were proud of the fact that we didn't argue or let little grievances get between us, which in retrospect was the completely wrong thing to do, and I do believe that society creates a paradox where anger/arguement is frowned upon (witness all the anger management courses, non adversarial co-operation on projects (I'm an architect) etc)) - it's a natural reaction - it's one of the ways that I see where we went wrong, and eventually it all exploded and little resentments going back years came tumbling out - it was a sum total of small things, not one large thing like an affair, which is really quite sad.

dd

dissapointed dad wrote:

well put - in my case she (petitioner) said that she had enough - that is why I responded about the 'bottling up' bit - she, and quite often I, were proud of the fact that we didn't argue or let little grievances get between us, which in retrospect was the completely wrong thing to do, and I do believe that society creates a paradox where anger/arguement is frowned upon (witness all the anger management courses, non adversarial co-operation on projects (I'm an architect) etc)) - it's a natural reaction - it's one of the ways that I see where we went wrong, and eventually it all exploded and little resentments going back years came tumbling out - it was a sum total of small things, not one large thing like an affair, which is really quite sad.

totally same here. apart from the architect bit

Take care--as stated there is help available for coping with what is an incredibly difficult time. Even us men can be helped with some form of counselling or "talking it out".

The only thing I can promise you is that things will get better.

DivorceSolicitor

Hear, hear, on all counts

dd

Thanks all. im so confused. we've spent the afternoon/evening together with the kids and had a family dinner and all snuggled in front of the TV and its been just like normal. just put the kids to bed now. i dont know what to say or do. my friend is coming round soon and we're going to his place for a few beers but i think im just going to get distraught again. either way im getting out of the house so i think that'll be good.