A Decent Guy Does Divorce & Dating

Thank you perin and it really means a lot that my blog is helping people. I''ve been in a bad place this last couple of weeks but feel it gradually getting better and writing this has been a big part of that. There''s a way to go but we''ll get there!

Worst weekend for ages... Have felt so low... But hopefully the new week will be ok.

I feel for you, I''m there too. Although there are happier moments as well now, just a day at a time.

Thank you!

Latest post up today: 4d74.blogspot.co.uk/

Hi MattW1974,

Your blogs are very heartfelt. A good outlet for those thoughts that play havoc in our minds during a very stressful, soul searching time. I used to blog on Wiki a lot in the early days of my own journey, it really does help you let go. And to answer your question about looking back at your blogs, in time, they will be part of the healing process, the path on your journey, you will eventually look back and see just how far you have come.

Two things that have struck a deep chord for me is the music and the perceptions other people have of us. My X ''took'' (polite word for it), long story, our physical music, but 5 and a half years on the music still lives on with me every single day. He may have the collection, that our very own Sunflower reminds me, could melt in the sun, but it is very much in my heart and my ''soul''. He never really stole that for me, it was as much my passion as it is his. The music will never die and thank goodness for Spotify!!

Perceptions, yes one I still struggle to this day with, although I have got a lot better at the water off a ducks back thing! Since my X and I split, him being ''the big cheese and all that'', I have never seen hide nor hair of my friends and family, but they underestimated me, I took the bold hero on and came out stronger for it. It still bothers me that I was the ''talk of the town'' at the time, but being a wallflower or a rollover was not something I could afford to be. My 2 children needed their Mum to be strong for them and I had no option. I often wonder if ''their'' perceptions would change had ''they'' been stood in my shoes?! As I always say, ''if I have to explain it, they''ll never understand it''.

Keep blogging MattW1974. Always ''Keep The Faith'' and keep on keeping on, it will help cleanse the heart!

P.S. Loved your reference to Lennon.

Take care for now FoS x

Your blog is helping me so much. As a person who has depression I completely got your last post.

Am not ready for dating yet so am reading the comments with interest.

And I didn''t want to post too often in case you thought I was stalking you lol!

Finally "our" song came on the radio this week while I was in the car. Rather than burst into tears and have hysterics I turned it up and sang along. Progress I think...

Have a good weekend