A Decent Guy Does Divorce & Dating

Great blog Matt, reading your thoughts is helping me get through this terrible situation as its happening to me right now - and just before christmas. Sometimes life kicks us hard!
Keep it up...

FoS, Pebbles, Si_mon, thank you all. I''m glad you feel it helps. Your comments are all helping me so thank you.

I''ve had an awful month to be honest but my situation is different in that I split with my wife last August, divorced this summer and I really don''t care what my ex-wife does now although I wish her no ill will. I met someone wonderful only a month after we split and she really helped me get through the tough days and I really don''t know what I''d have done without her. She is a few years on from her divorce and it got too difficult with us being in different stages of the process, she was ready to settle and I wasn''t so it ended after 10 months this July. We stayed friends and I''d been pretty philosophical about it - although obviously sad - but when she recently started seeing somebody that she is very keen on it felt like a cannonball to the guts. I''ve been absolutely heartbroken and have never known anything like it.

I''ve accepted that I''m just going to have to let time do its thing but I would never have believed how hard it would be. I guess there is a lot of unresolved pain from the divorce, then the subsequent split that I have kept tucked away that is now forcing its way out. Bloody painful!!! I genuinely want her to be happy, she''s a wonderful person that also went through a horrible divorce and deserves every happiness, but I can''t help feeling sad that things didn''t work for us.

Heartbreak is a horrible thing and I feel for each and every one of you on here. We will find happiness again and we will look back on these times and see how far we have come.