I've ruined my life

Wow, what a result lsot!!!!!!

Makes me wish i'd listened to my own advice int the early days like you did, i might have been in te same posistion as you are by now.
Keep it up, one day at a time and keep posting.

The very best of luck

Matt

Guys, there is no way that I am thinking of 'letting go' of what I am doing. All I have to think is where it made me end up and that is enough.

Matt, there's something in the phrase 'follow your heart'. Do what you think is right as long as it isn't likely to cause hurt or anger.

There are so many sites around that give advice on what to do, how to play it, why people think like they do. I know that most of them are based on research and historical facts of real siutations, but there is no 'cover all' solution. We all know our partners (ex or not) better than anyone else and how good or bad they are.

Just don't give up trying for what yuo really want. Even if it doesn't work out (I'm not out of the woods yet by a long chalk) then at least in the future you can look back and tell yourself that you did your best. I for one, will never give up until I know that there is nothing left to fight for, and then I can be in peace with myself.

Good for you buddy!

I'm sure we all wish you all the luck in the world.

Hi, wanted to say how much I admire you for what you are doing - your wife too. Its a big thing to admit to your own problems, but then being positive and actually doing something about it whilst keeping level-headed is so very hard. You know it won't be easy, but grit your teeth and fight for what you want, you deserve it.
Good luck

Thanks Shadow.

Update again. Been out today and got myself a job. I start in 2 weeks. Just enough time to get the business wound up properly. Been over to Jane's house again tonight, had another long chat. She's completely blown away how fast I have sorted myself and wants us to get back together sooner rather than later. We both know that there is a lot of sorting to do between us, but together we can work better on it.

Now I have rehomed both our dogs (didn't want to, but had to) just the cats to sort and then I will be staying at Jane's whilst I get our house sorted and sold.

RESULT!!

Just when I had given up all hope, a bit of Yorkshire Grit and Determination has turned things around.

Thanks again people for all your support.

I hope my short but sweet story gives you some hope and inspiration

Hi Lsot1,

Your story and experience is inspirational!

Thank you very much for letting everyone know!

Best wishes for you both!

YA

Hi there Lsot
I am so pleased for you, and if you ever feel you might be going down the wrong path read your posts again and again.
I wish you and Jane all the best. Shame about your dogs, I had to do that, never forgive myself, that hurt so much and I have to live with that every day. It was for the best as you say, but it will hurt.
Good luck

Zara