Dump a pregnant woman

rosiegirl wrote:

When did you find out about the pregnancy? Have you had time to get used to the idea and be able to talk about it calmly with your girlfriend?

a couple of weeks ago. First I was excited since I did not fully realize the consequences. But later I felt depressed. I could not start a conversation about abortion since I did not wish to hurt her feelings, but I feel I do not want a child from her. When I walk along the street, I think that I would rather have a child from 99% of random girls than from her. When she told me about the pregnancy she did not even mention that we need to get married (before she was preoccupied with a marriage idea). I concluded that now she received what she wanted and is not that interested in me.

toms wrote:

rosiegirl wrote:
I concluded that now she received what she wanted and is not that interested in me.

Wouldn't it be better to talk and find out for sure what she thinks/feels rather than assume you know, or listen to other people's views which are not very objective anyway?

Is this prehaps because your scared ? you said how excited you was at first .Forget her being the mum in that sense you don't need to love her but she is carrying something that you help create.So if she bought up the marriage thing again now what would you say prehaps the way you have been last few weeks has told her there is no future for the 2 of you.

rosiegirl wrote:

toms wrote:

rosiegirl wrote:
I concluded that now she received what she wanted and is not that interested in me.

Wouldn't it be better to talk and find out for sure what she thinks/feels rather than assume you know, or listen to other people's views which are not very objective anyway?

she states she is interested, however, I have doubts due to her changed behavior.

What changed behaviour?

There could be all sorts of reasons for her behaviour and she may possibly be picking up on your negativity. You may be right about her motives, but maybe not. Would you consider talking again?

constanza wrote:

What changed behaviour?

before she was obsessed with the marriage, now it seems to be not necessary. She only stated that there will be no sexual relationships again untill we are married.

By the way, we only knew each other for a couple of months before conception. Now I find more and more negative features in her. She seems to love me. She has never pointed to a single negative feature in me. I feel such a pity for her, but I don't think it is the love.