have the money but dont want it to go to kids

Every case is different though and not all of us are on benefits or entitled to WFTC. Sadly not all fathers will support their children even when there is nothing stopping them being fathers. Some fathers are just as quick to withdraw, or threaten to withdraw, financial support as some mothers are to with hold contact in my experience.

In our circumstances if residence had been shared 50:50 and there was no CM the children would have lived half the time with my ex, who earns less than me, at a much lower standard than they did with me. That doesn't seem exactly fair to children to me.

my now ex clears £9k a month... has lied to the csa as he owns his own company and has been assessed at being liable for £68 a mth for child maintenance...

if forseti your attitude re him being taxed as a dad is right... then i reckon he is getting a fantastic deal and should be bringing the whole of the csa out to dinner to say a great big thank you for all the money he is saving...

as for your comparison to hitler... get over yourself and grow up...

the CSA aka the state is there because unfortunately some men don't want to behave like fathers and put luxury items ahead of their kids welfare. sad but true

it would be better if nrp was used instead of men as some mothers are just as bad, my son lives with me and his mum has done everything not to pay even telling lies to csa, who don't seem as keen to chase up absent mothers with as much gusto as absent fathers, my ex's reason not to pay is because i earn more then her because i'm full time and she works part time also she says she needs her money for new partner and his son as her new partner will not work.

markp wrote:

it would be better if nrp was used instead of men as some mothers are just as bad, my son lives with me and his mum has done everything not to pay even telling lies to csa, who don't seem as keen to chase up absent mothers with as much gusto as absent fathers, my ex's reason not to pay is because i earn more then her because i'm full time and she works part time also she says she needs her money for new partner and his son as her new partner will not work.

Have to say i agree on this. I pay my child maintenance and have done from the begining for our 3 children.

However when my oldest son aged 14 moved across to live with me as he was sick of everything going on (and the fact he had his bed given to my ex's new partners son most weekends) my ex has said she doesn't think she should pay as he 'chose' to move.

Then after doing that she wouldn't disclose to the child benefit office or the tax office or the csa that he wasn't with her and it's taken 7 months to sort out.

She now pays csa under duress and still refuses to disclose her full correct income only the 16 hours minimum wage employed work she does rather than her own business.

T

I agree, Mark, some mothers who are NRPs are just as bad or worse than some father NRPs at paying child support. Also some father PWCs are just as bad or worse than some mother PWCs at with holding contact.

Before someone says the answer is shared residence to equalise the power between parents I've heard many stories of manipulation there too eg the NRP collecting children 3 or 4 nights a week in their PJs with teeth brushed to take them home to bed, then returning them the following morning in their PJs ready for breakfast thus reducing CM but without them incurring any of the costs.

I'm a father and my children live with me. and I can afford to keep us all.

So should I take 20% of my ex-wifes salary?
On principle