Struggling to carry on (long post)

Good luck Michael.

Michael,

That all sounds so positive...and the whole family together, fantastic...have a great time...as you say baby steps...keep us posted.

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Elle wrote:

Lucretia wrote:

So no Elle I will not give him a break. I will not give anyone who constantly makes nasty little jibes against my sex a break. THAT is not what I am about.

Luc I was referring to the OP (Michael) but can see how that may not have been too obvious:silly:

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AGHHHHH

Sorry - *wipes egg off face*

Michael - I appeared harsh but as I say this has just happened to my mate. However you seem far more decent than my mates OH.
I really really hope you two work it out and as the others say - keep us posted.

Hi Michael - I'm so glad you are spending time with your family. I hope you have a wonderful weekend. Please keep us posted.

Take care, Bon

I have stayed away from this thread. Its not realy my area. But the tone of of what HawayTheLads said made me think.
This sentence "So often unfortunately when money goes out the window love walks out the door."

I am not one to judge. But I think the whole tone of what Pete said has some truth to it and it kinda rings true. There is you sloging your guts out and your not doing it realy. So to make ends meet you take a little. And for this you get some rough justice from the wife.

Silly old me wouldnt turn there back on someone for that. I would stand shoulder to shoulder with my wife \ GF and support her. I wouldnt say we should split up over it. Its not a serious enough reason. Perhaps I have a higher expectation of whats bad or good.

Reading the rest of it sounds like there is some hope for you and you may get back together. But I just want to say a couple of things.

1) Dont beat yrself up so bad over what you did. Ok it was wrong. But you didnt slap the money on the gee-gees. You put food on the table. To me sure it was dishonest but its a bit like being executed for stealing bread.

2) I think your wife shouldnt be turning her back on you. Sure you did wrong. The person that hasnt done wrong aint been born yet. She sould be saying. Ok it was wrong. You kept it from me. I am hurt over that but we are bigger than this and we will get thru it. I am behind you all the way.

If this all goes wrong. You lose your wife. Your half of the equity has to pay off some of what you owe. Its not right that you pay and pay. Ok so you wont have zip. But you have hands and feet and you will survive. Put a pin in a map and go there. Start again. But just learn from this. Thats the real story here. Sorry to be hard on you. But I am like that. C.

Marshy_ ta for the reply - I'm sure there are women (and men) out there who fall into the area of "So often unfortunately when money goes out the window love walks out the door" I'm glad I didn't marry one!! It's a trust issue, I should have spoken to her about it long before it became a problem. I agree with your two points (apart from the "turning her back on me" - if she was going to do that she would have done it straight away) which is why I refuse to simply give in, however trust is a very big thing and when you trust someone with your life and they let you down it is hard to see your way back from that.

Lucretia - nobody can say/type anything that will even touch how badly I feel about this. I let the woman i love, my soul mate down and I have to try and rebuild that, it may well be to late but by god I'm gonna try.

Michael W wrote:

I let the woman i love, my soul mate down and I have to try and rebuild that, it may well be to late but by god I'm gonna try.

I for one will be with you all the way...I do so love a happy ending and you sound like you can provide that

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