advice on settlement

Catty,

Please understand that the Law in the UK is not like in Eastern Europe.

In Eastern Europe the Civil Code spells out what the Law ALLOWS one to do and like the Napoleonic Code sets out definite procedures for dealing with disputes, including divorce.

In the United Kingdom the philosophy is that everyone can do whatever they want except what is NOT ALLOWED and unlike the Napoleonic Code court judgements are determined not by rule but by precedents of interpretation.

Catty, divorce is not a shop where you can pick up and compare your husband's offer with what one you will get in court. No one can tell you what you'll get in court except the judge on the day.

The opinion here, based on individual experiences and that of a Family Law barrister is that you have received a good offer.

Please consider your husband's offer on the basis of whether it is good enough for you and not whether you might be able to get more from the court. Take it or leave it - it is up to you know.

YA

"What I don't understand is why the OP was here for 4.5 years as a housewife then didn't do anything to study to get a UK qualification, bearing in mind her own diploma wasn't recognised. "

I have been studying ESOL (English for Speakers of Other Languages) for 3 years and an Interpreting course. I do few hours interpreting as a job. I was also involved time from time in some family businesses. I never eved had any state benefits.

Ok Ok I think possibly everyone on here is now getting fed up with this thread. I personally never thought you were on benefits as you quite clearly said you were a housewife. However, as a British citizen you are now perfectly entitled to claim them. Whether you do or not, I don't particularly care.

I strongly object to Neil07's post referencing my remark about my Polish cleaner which he obviously hasn't understood why I made it in the first place. And for this I am called racist!

If as he says, that she is "unwilling to accept the punditry of others" all I say is fine - either take the offer or go to court. Her choice. Nothing else to be said.

I personally cannot be bothered to get into anymore discussions about rascism etc on this post , neil07 read back and if you think that is rascism fair enough , it would be more than my jobs worth , everyone is entitled to their own opinion but yours is so strong so keep it to yourself , it was catty who said she didnt like england and the people , most were trying to give her honest advice whilst you are opinionated in this matter , i wonder why !

I never said I didn't like England and people. i just only repplied for Lady's in blue comment about her friend's foreign wife who used him for settling over here. I only meant that I never had any intentions to come to live to England. It's happened by chance because I met my English husband who invited me to come here. Is it clearly enough?

Why dont you shut up catty as you clearly cant take any advice and i am personally sick of your moaning , if you dont like your husbands offer go to court , if you dont like england go back to wherever and no this isnt racist but you are wearing a bit thin and dont know when to shut up

catty wrote:

I never said I didn't like England and people. i just only repplied for Lady's in blue comment about her friend's foreign wife who used him for settling over here. I only meant that I never had any intentions to come to live to England. It's happened by chance because I met my English husband who invited me to come here. Is it clearly enough?

Catty .

This is what you said in post 33801

"To Lady in blue - do you think I also used my husband to settle over here? I never been particularly keen on England in first place, so you are wrong!! I think it's quite personal and not connected to settlement."

We have all read the above post and this is the reason we all suggested you might think about going home if you didn't like England. If we have read this incorrectly due to your grasp of the English language, apologies

Mon