Hi all. Wife wants to seperate.

(((((dynactive))))

To echo what others have said....be strong, calm and stay put. You have friends here who will continue to support you through this very difficult journey.

Best wishes xxx

Of course it''a ll your fault dynaclive.
Didn''t you know the minute your misus starts playing hide the sausage with a new beau.
She has an allergic reaction that causes her brain to rewrite history.
That you never cared enough,neglected her,was a control freak,abusive,and if you''re not tea total alcoholic as well.
Oh yeah and all you cared about was work and never cared about the kids either left it all to her to do.
Join the club it''s massive every divorced fella ever is in it
All the best
HRH x

Well that was a funny few days, wife has been to the CAB today. Wife now being much nicer?

Apparently I get to say what happens to the house. The CAB believe I can support the wife & kids, the mortgage and rent somewhere for me. Not sure the CAB can do maths! or my wife has not given all the information needed?

Should i be alarmed right now? Wife is saying its up to me what happens to her and the kids, apparently I can stay in the house if I want and she will move out. Is this a trap? Wife said if I wanted I could go a live the life I want and she would live off the minimum, don''t panic my kids come first and if my wife suffers so do they but this is very different to you move out and stay with your parents and I''ll stay here.

Obviously my kids will come first, selling the house will clear the cards and give us thousands to split and a fresh start for both. This does seem to be the cleanest option, we can treat the kids and put lots of money away for them as well (10 years till uni for the first one).

We are sitting down again tomorrow to try and complete the Separation Agreement draft but she still wants me out ASAP. Is a separation agreement signed by a solicitor good enough for me to go to my parents until the house is sold? I would like to stay as the house will need painting etc. and if we wait until Aug we are out of our fixed period and can save £5k on early repayment charges.

I might be crazy but twice tonight I asked her if this is really what she wanted, she said yes.

I am very confused, I am genuinely a really nice guy who did everything possible for my wife and kids, just when the money started coming in she wants to separate. Money has been the main problem so this was the issue I focused on sorting out. I still did house work etc and always tried to give the wife attention:kiss:.

Please let me know your thoughts, should I be worried by her nice its your choice behavior?

Wife said if I wanted I could go a live the life I want and she would live off the minimum,

Sounds like she is trying to make you feel guilty, sorry for her, take the blame for the separation ......and most importantly move out

Take care

If your stbx can''t afford the mortgage and is expecting you to continue paying for it and bills. Don''t move out.

If she will have enough money with the child maintenance to pay all bills and mortgage and live then moving out won''t make much difference to financial split.

Make sure mortgage and bills in her name before you move out.

dynaclive wrote:

I am genuinely a really nice guy who did everything possible for my wife

Bizzare, and similar similar to me. In time you may find this was part of the problem for her.

Hi, thanks for your thoughts.

Wife can''t manage the house alone, we''ll see what tonight brings.


Interesting donkler, we are doing what we always discussed doing, she would stop work and look after the kids. Its been very difficult to increase my salary through the recession. I have managed it but we are always a little short.

Kids still unaware and wife want to tell them ASAP

Life is very strange...