Hi all. Wife wants to seperate.

So very heart warming dynaclive.....time to enjoy the children. Hugs to you all xx

Quick update, had the kids this weekend for the second time, we had fun. Beach on Saturday followed by a BBQ in the evening and a relaxing Sunday with a walk along a river in the afternoon. Lots of cuddles on the sofa!

Nothing yet from the ex, she is still with her sister. Don''t know if I should be trying to do anything?

I changed the locks on the house as there was a robbery in the road and the back door has been unlocked since she moved out and the key went missing. I understand she has rights as this is her house to but do I need to give her a key? More than happy for her to come in when I am here. Before I changed the locks one of her friends and the mother in law also had a key and I felt a little uneasy with this in the current situation.

Loosing weight, cycling lots and working hard. My mind seems to be in a good place considering whats going on, hopefully that wont change.

Night all

How lovely enjoying time with your girls xx

Well its almost been a month,thought I would give you all an update.

Ex''s finally contacted me about something other than the girls and told me that her solicitor would be in contact shortly. I took advice from this website and was informed that she can pass all the divorce costs on to me and this could be £Ks. So I acted on the advise and applied for divorce ASAP so I could be in control of the costs, first to apply to court controls the divorce apparently. Using this website total cost will be less than £600, I have sent off all the documents and ticked the box to say I will pay all costs.

Received a letter from the ex''s sol a week later, introductory letter mentioning the relationship, finances and concern for current situation of girls. I responded to the letter after taking more advice from this website and just gave a quick history from my point of view and stated that I want to do what best for my girls etc. I also stated that the girls are in the current situation due to my Ex''s personal need for distance and I have been trying to do what best for the girls from the start.

I was a little late in responding to the letter as I have lots on other than just this and posted the response through the sols door Friday morning, today I got a letter from the ex''s sol posted on Thursday. Different tone to this one, I have moved some of my ''junk'' (Ex''s words) to my parents house including the garden shed to store it in. Ex has found out and text stating all possessions are equal etc. Sols letter stats apparently I have been disposing of some items?? I have binned nothing and not moved anything of the Ex''s or girls stuff.

Letter then goes on to the living arrangements of the Ex and how they are not satisfactory and that it would be reasonable for her to return to the MH and invite me to agree to vacate. I need to take advice on this but I am still happy to co-habit, there is no reason to move out. More than happy for her to move back in.

So that me currently, ex has not listen to me, not put the girls first, is living in a two bed flat (7 up) and I am now getting letters as though its all my fault???? I had no say in any of this.

Anyway almost lost two stone on a zero carb diet and enjoying my time with the girls. Work is really busy and I am getting out on the mountain bike lots. My mind is in a good place considering everything, just a little lonely occasionally if you know what I mean;).

Night all,

I got sols letters winding me up, saying I too should move out. I just ignored them.

Sounds like stbx has discovered council won''t re house her because she has a house already.

The only person who can force you to move is a judge. I would write to solicitor saying she can move back in but your not moving out until she can financially pay mortgage and bills.

Do the children already share rooms at yours?

Hello All!

Thanks for replying to these posts, it means a lot. Changed my forum name, possibly just paranoid.

Ex is still not talking to me, I have replied to her sol stating that she is free to return to the MH but there is no reason for me to find alternate accommodation. I have also petitioned for divorce first meaning I am in control of the costs of the divorce and the ex can''t pass any of her solicitor costs on to me.

Not sure what is going to happen from here really, I have offered almost everything on a plate to her and not had anything in return. Want to start the new chapter in my life ASAP.

The kids and I are having a blast when I have them and I have almost lost three stone. Getting out on my bike regularly and will be attending the Wikimeet in London next weekend.

Life is good considering what has happened, this website and its members has helped so much I can''t put it into words.

Thanks so much All, will update soon.