Should I or shouldn't I?

What's with all the negativity in this thread?

The fella is voicing his issues, he doesn't need an attack from a few miserable hard done by ex wives!

I bet if a woman posted exactly the same thread she would get an amazing amount of assistance and support!

You girls make my blood boil!

I have to agree with Jake..

What the hell is going down with these bitter posts?

Theres always 2 sides to a story - we dont have hers & she aint asking for help from us either - HE IS!

All I can say is if you cant talk to your wife - then write her a letter with all your thoughts & feelings & a suggestion of marriage counselling, if this has no affect, then you could.

1. Post more details of personal circumstances on here ie: - Length of marriage, Ages, Childrens Ages etc ...

With the hope of a decent response!!!!

2. Go ask a solictor for advice on where you stand right now if you chose to leave & how it would affect you both.

From your post she sounds like many other bitter twisted complacent wives!!

Lets hope we can help & give you some sound advice.

Angel 1

Angel 1 wrote:

I have to agree with Jake..

What the hell is going down with these bitter posts?

Theres always 2 sides to a story
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My point is ...story

wotever

jakeblues68 wrote:

What's with all the negativity in this thread?

The fella is voicing his issues, he doesn't need an attack from a few miserable hard done by ex wives!

I bet if a woman posted exactly the same thread she would get an amazing amount of assistance and support!

You girls make my blood boil!

Actually I am not a bitter ex wife. I am the one that did the walking - for reasons that can be read elsewhere.

This man has been very cruel about his stbx - the reasons he has given are spurious to say the least. He has boasted himself up and made light of the whole process.
Speaking as someone who anguished long and hard before coming to the conclusion that I had to go, I find this attitude hard to take.
And being a male, he of course thinks he is in the right, is always logical whilst she of course is just hot headed.
There are a lot of very sad stories - men and women - on here.
This is not one of them.
Sorry - he needs to sit down and talk to his wife again and... here's a thing, "try a little tenderness".
His wife does not sound bitter at all - she sounds like a flipping saint and quite honestly - given the choice between spending time with my horse and him, I know who I would choose.

For the first time ( and I hope last) I have judged on here. I never have before - although some of the responses from the men have made me bite my tongue lol.
This post made me angry and I am sorry but sometimes I just have to say how I feel.

FFF,

I am not going to comment on whether you are right/wrong. I'll just make the assumptions that you are as miserable as sin, you can't work things out with your wife and you can't change it unless you get out of the relationship.

What you need to understand is this. If you divorce, it will be extremely painful from every angle. If you think you are being taken for granted now and your wife is in the driving seat you really have no idea. This is my prediction.

You will have no rights in regards to your children - none. You will be treated like a "favourite uncle" and will effectively pay your wife to see them and then only when your wife deems that you may. You'll have an enormous feeling of resentment about this.

The law will treat you as if you are a "downbeat dad" regardless of whatever you have done. You are likely to be ordered to pay money to your wife until you die. She'll be even less reluctant to do anything and will probably claim that she has no capability and is reliant upon you (as you have clearly demonstrated so far).

You'll loose the majority of your previous earnings and a large portion of your future.

You'll deal with solicitors - her's will be desperate to goad you into court action. You won't believe their lack of morality (and their cost). Again, you'll find it difficult to come to terms with.

A man in your situation has no rights under family law.

If you want to keep seeing your children, I suggest that you that you try and change things.

However, you have lots to be thankful for. You wife works (mine didn't and getting that to change is literally in the hands of the gods). You have children and spend quality time with them (why shouldn't your wife have time on her own - can't believe that you are complaining about looking after them). Importantly - it is you thinking about divorce, not your wife. Personally knowing what I do now, I would do every goddamn thing I could to try and make it work.

The law will treat you as if you are a "downbeat dad" regardless of whatever you have done. You are likely to be ordered to pay money to your wife until you die. She'll be even less reluctant to do anything and will probably claim that she has no capability and is reliant upon you (as you have clearly demonstrated so far).


Sorry to be pedantic, but he has clearly demonstrated nothing IMO. He has just come on here and been very cruel and quite frankly I ( and others) do not believe a word of it.