Should I or shouldn't I?

Hi there,

I'm thinking of leaving my wife, but not sure whether I've got the bottle or inclination.

There is nobody else involved. I just don't like her any more. We argue most of the time, about most things.

I feel taken for granted every day. I work full time, she is part-time. I do more than my fair share of taking the two children to school and nursery. I do all the food shopping, all the cooking, usually end up clearing away as well while she watches TV.

If I want a hug, I have to go and take one - it's never offered to me. And if I initiate any sexual contact, I'm made to feel dirty.

I work long hours (60 hours a week) and have no real hobbies. She has two horses and a dog, and is up at the stables most of the time while I sit with the kids.

I feel I get nothing out of this relationship, I just work hard and she spends the money on the horses.

Three things are stopping me from going and looking for a new, more equitable life:

1 - Fear of losing the kids
2 - We are joint partners in the family business, so it will be messy
3 - I don't have time or energy for the fight.

Any advice would be gratefully received!

Cheers,

FunFunFun

This last part of your post tells me you need to grow up a bit chap and not take divorce so flippantly.

"Three things are stopping me from going and looking for a new, more equitable life:



1 - Fear of losing the kids

2 - We are joint partners in the family business, so it will be messy

3 - I don't have time or energy for the fight.



Any advice would be gratefully received!



Cheers,



FunFunFun "


Fun fun fun eh? We'll see...

I'm not taking divorce flippantly. I think you've judged my post incorrectly. I may appear light-hearted, but that's just my nature. I'm actually sick of my life right now, but am just trying to put a brave face on it and explore options.

Have you tried talking to your wife about how you feel? Perhaps she is as fed up as you are?

Hi Lucretia,

I've tried talking, but she can't hold a conversation without it turning into a full-on arguement, and she doesn't think in logical terms. It's difficult to explain, but it's not as if she's talking about the same issue as me.

I'm a very logical person, and can work through thinghs calmly, but she's a Scorpio and can't talk without attacking and accusing me of lying and manipulating.

It's now at the stage where I'd rather not talk because it just goes nowhere. Believe me I've tried time and again (we've been together 17 years and it's got worse over the last few years

As soon as you said "she's a Scorpio", I thought, there is a nutter.
Good luck and God bless your wife.

FUNFUNFUN wrote:

Hi Lucretia,

I've tried talking, but she can't hold a conversation without it turning into a full-on arguement, and she doesn't think in logical terms. It's difficult to explain, but it's not as if she's talking about the same issue as me.

I'm a very logical person, and can work through thinghs calmly, but she's a Scorpio and can't talk without attacking and accusing me of lying and manipulating.

It's now at the stage where I'd rather not talk because it just goes nowhere. Believe me I've tried time and again (we've been together 17 years and it's got worse over the last few years

I can offer no more advice - your post says it all.
I feel very sorry for your wife.