Should I or shouldn't I?

street_hawk_666 wrote:

hold on for a mo, who cooked your meat on the barbecue fair enough you

made the salad
buttered the buns
got the sauce
fetched the meat
got the plates
invited the guests
bought and supplied the drinks

but men allways have to finish what a women started we cooked the meat and distributed it as our work

sorry just thought I would bring some light heartedness to the table (sorry cant help it)

Mybe that is where we went wrong.... we never had barbeques..

And thanks for the lightheartedness - this thread really has upset me and I wish I hadn't read it now.

Couldn't agree more.In fact I didn't think much of what fun,fun, fun said.However I was a bit taken back by some of the comments .The all point of this site is to "let it all out. " It made me think twice to continue to be on wikivorce as I am sensitive anyway and tactless unecessary comments that I read directed to a first user of wikki would have really affect me had I been written to in that manner.
Roxie

Roxie wrote:

Couldn't agree more.In fact I didn't think much of what fun,fun, fun said.However I was a bit taken back by some of the comments .The all point of this site is to "let it all out. " It made me think twice to continue to be on wikivorce as I am sensitive anyway and tactless unecessary comments that I read directed to a first user of wikki would have really affect me had I been written to in that manner.
Roxie

Hey Roxie

I admit I was the main perpertrator here but please don't be put off. This is not something I would normally do - I have had a really bad weekend and sadly the OP is too much like my stbx in many ways.
Post freely - normally this is a none judgemental place and I can assure you this is the first and last time I will judge anyone..
I am only human and sometimes my feelings can get the better of me.

Wikivorce is a support forum - and while I accept that one of the drawbacks of posting publicly is that you may receive comments that are perhaps not as supportive as you might have liked, it is worthwhile remembering what the ethos of Wikivorce is - to offer support to others going through divorce/separation.

My ex-husband is an alcoholic, and for quite some time I found I was unable to offer any kind of positive support to those who admitted to having a drinking problem - so I simply stayed away from those posts.

I really do hope that this post wont put FFF or others off from posting in the future - that would be a great shame.

I am still reading The comments made about what" fun fun fun" wrote and what strikes me is what he has been precisely critized for is what I am reading now from others ie things about the bad things their spouses did or said and what their thoughts are about it. It is good that we can do this is it not? Only our version though...but its the one that counts.Not only that, women are equally good at portraying themselves as victim too.
Roxie

Well said lucretia on your H playing the martyr.
I went into a store recently and the wife of a client/ mutual friend was dodging behind fitments trying to avoid me. I can only ask, "what the Hell has my H told them?"
Reminds me of years back after I'd literally pushed him off the doorstep over an affair.

I received a phone call from a very irate client/aquaintance who ripped into me and said I should stop using our small child as a weapon to get at my H's money.!

Erh, hang on. He was living in my paid for house, which was security for the bank to enable us to start a business. He didn't have two pennies to his name. As for our daughter, if I didn't deliver her every Sunday afternoon, he'd never see her and never asked for or after her.
The poor woman was so embarrassed and apologetic.
I'm now suffering the same humiliating lies from him to our staff.

As to the OP, the reasons you give are not reasons for ending a marriage, not one with children anyway.

Guys

Can I just remind you all that this is a free support forum?

We are not here to sit in judgement on anyone - there but by the Grace of God go I????!!!! Ring any bells????

We are here for both husband and/or wife - gender should not be an issue. Circumstance should not be an issue. If we have anything supportive to offer.... we can offer it. If we don't..... best to keep off the thread.

EVERYONE here deserves support - regardless of our private opinions.

If we cannot respect another view then there is no room for comment.

I cannot believe some of the judgemental posts here - Wikivorce is not the place for that. Wikivorce is freely available to everyone who feels they need support and anyone who feels they can offer support.

That's it. Think about it.

Shezi