When will it end!

I'm in the same position and feel very aggrieved that my partners stbx wants a portion of our small flat (bought with my equity but large mortgage shared and paid by both of us...)

Just a point about your house. First, I hope you are tenants in common not joint tenants. This way you can allocate what proportion of the house belongs to you and what to him. 50% (all she would get) of 1% of the house value isn't worth the fight...

Secondly, if you can show that the house was bought without money from the marriage (in our case the equity all came from me and my previous house sale) then it is unlikely to be included in the marital asset pot (not certainly won't but likely won't).

Good luck with this - I feel and share your frustration....

Ephilia

I fear some would love to have the shirt off your back if they could.

They only way to get over a situation like that would be to put the property in your sole name, not including your partner's. Wait until the divorce is over and then you could transfer it into joint names. Many people do not realise that their new property could be included in the marital pot.

I think it takes a special breed that would want to fleece someone and take their new home too. Sad people.
zara

My partner has not seen his son since December last year due to his ex threatening to throw her son out should he see his dad. He has been in contact with him secretly when she is not around but has been too scared to make the 4 hour train journey to see us and daren't let his dad come up in case someone sees them - he is genuinley scared and it is so cruel of her.

My partner is currently trying to arrange for them to meet halfway so that they can see their beloved football team play on the day before his 18th birthday in November but is having to send train tickets and 2 match tickets so that it will seem that he is going with a mate and not his dad.

Madness..............................

Oh my god nessinoo that is awful. Just awful. Poor boy, and father. What sort of woman is she. It just beggars belief. What is she trying to gain from it all? I think she must be sick!!

She should be delighted that her son and his father have a good relationship, well, she will be the one that will miss out in time.

Has he ever come and stayed with you?

zara

Hi Zara

Yes - he came down twice a month for years - school holidays - we took him on our annual holiday - he used to come down all the time when his dad was away even - I think it used to make him feel close to him as I talked about him loads and we used to look forward to the rare contact together - he was in the forces for 24 years (married for 9 of those).

It suited her then to have some peace as she called it (he is a lovely lad) - she has never made it easy but it was bearable and at least they got to see each other.

It all went t**s up tho when he left the armed forces in January and she says he should have told her and because he didn't she started up again but worse than ever before.

Strange really as my partner was never concerned when she had a career change.

I have a funny feeling it is something to do with the fact that he now earns far less than he ever did in the forces, is drawing his pension and had a gratuity - methinks the root of her evilness is, as it has always been - money.................

Sorry for the thread hijack.

Ness x

Hi Boredstiff, gosh i hope i never fall for a married man even if he IS seperated!
There isnt going to be much left of him for you is there? She is stalling it as she is doing ok as she is. She is asking way too much from him & i hope the courts see that!
Good luck, let us know her next move,
Cindy

Hi Cindy

Falling for a married (separated!) man is ok - it's the ones who have evil exes that you have to be wary of! Oh, and ones with children too!

Actually at my age I would be hard pushed to find a fella with no ex wives/children squeezed in with the skeletons in the cupboard. If I did he would probably have lived alone for far too long to want to share his life with me, or had never actually left home!!

Things are never the same forever Boredstiff - they get better and they get worse - but that is life's journey and as long as we treat the ones we love well and give those who cause pain a wide berth then there is little else we can do.

Ness