When will it end!

hmmm now it alllll makes sense. I couldn't work out why she wanted to change it from unreasonable behaviour to adultery considering it was amicable and he didnt have an affair.

I would never begrudge anyone anything but why do some women just go mad for money EVEN when they have literally just drifted apart. I would at least understand if you was hurting and you wanted to get at him.

Money is the route of all evil I swear!

Gee thats made me feel better NOT!

How can anyone view that as fair?

You know what I dont care if she gets everything with a cherry on top thats her business all I want is to one day see the end of this longness.

Hi bored stiff,
I think Sera referred to me in one of the posts.....

We still have the ex chewing at our heels five years later.
For no reason other than she is a money grabbing selfish jealous, meddling cow. I dont normally talk about people like that but she IS.

She walked out five years ago left her children behind, shacked up with a bloke had a baby, never once did she pay for anything. Not even for her children. No mortgage, no endowments, absolutely NOTHING.
The FMH has had an offer on it, she is trying to vary the court order, looks like MH will have to take it back to court, just to let her know that she cannot do it.
She has been a pain. Why, jealousy, her ex is not still sitting at home on his own, dressed in black mourning for her. He has now got on with his life. She hates it.
She has a house, boyfriend, baby and she still is trying to wreck our lives. I have been divorced and once it was all over I left him alone, never bothered him and yet he dished me up some dirt to contend with. But I cannot be bothered.

I am afraid that you are going to have to grit your teeth, put on your armour and get ready for a bloody awful fight. Some women just cannot let go and take great pleasure in making it so difficult.


You will need wiki, it will help you come to terms with all of the emotions you are going to experience.

Just be ready for the rollercoaster rides to hell.

Sorry to scare you, but, if you fear the worst, it takes the surprise away.

I wish you luck, I just hope it all goes well for you.
take care
zara

Thanks for the support.

I am a control freak I suppose and me and my partner expect to see a clear route of when all of this will be over. Its blindingly obvious that in the case of divorce this is NEVER going to happen.

Do you think that a judge would award her everything she wants??

Basically it sounds as though she is holding all the trump cards

Is there such a thing as an amicable divorce !!! I seriously doubt it

She may have been amicable during the 2 year separation basically it sounds like she has had her bread buttered on both sides during this time but amicable in divorce proceedings i think it is very unlikely.

She has totally had her bread buttered. He has tried to say he will pay her less a month just to get her moving (He has never done this) but she just says that if he pays her a penny less she will take the kids out of private school and he will have to explain.

the thing is the private school fee's are completely seperate to money he pays her a month (as I said before half his salary).

He is now saying that he is not even going to bother with the divorce! I feel physically drained and its not even me having to directly deal with her!

boredstiff,

Who did what with who has no bearing on he financial settlement.

If he wants a divorce and adultery is the quick way to do it then he has nothing to lose - except perhaps having to pay the court fee (£300) I believe. He could always just file for UB ... or see if they can do a divorce based on 2 years separation with consent.

The ancillary relief (financial settlement) is entirely separate. You'll need to post a bit more info for further elp on that - ages, length of marriage, ages of kids, incomes, equity in FMH, value of other assets - property, endowments, savings etc plus CETVs of pensions.

I am sure it is possible for the children's school fees to be part of an order and kept separate from other finances. Could he pay them direct himself?

Hadenoughnow