Tracking your wife's car and text messages

Good for you and keep your head up. Having decided to walk away, leave her to her life and start rebuilding your own.

Good luck, it is hard but not impossible.

Take care.

Green door, I was in same situation as you mate, putting software on her phone is not illegal, BUT it would get you in a lot of trouble if she found out, its infringement of human rights and all that. You already know whats happening, even if you get all the text messages and the number, what would you do?
Tracking her is a bit different, I have done this before with similar devices, you stick a GPS on the car, download it on a pc and you can see where she went and for how long, ok then what? I have done it to delivery drivers and found out they went home every day, so i sacked them.
This is all info for you, you are in a state similar to me, you need answers, I am in a situation now to be honest where I know too much and it is deciding the rest of my life. I used surveillance gear on my wife and found out loads more than i ever would, but I can never use it.

Best thing is, know that you have tried, that your suspicions are correct and walk with your head high, promise you , you will feel better than if you dont know all the details. I know this sounds daft, it seems as humans we need to know, some call it closure, but she is living a life of secrets from you, so you cant replay every day, you know your looking at the tip of the ice berg

did we marry the same woman!!

Don't fit any surveillance equipment as the results and the persuing of those resuilts will eat you up...i know.

My wife started hiding her mobile phone and when it was around it never chirped or rang. she never picked it up even but when she went out as soon as she thought she was out of sight of the house out would come the mobile phone.

I was intrigued and downloaded a keystroke device tho the computer - not illegal, but what is illegal is what you do with that information. Soon i had her logged on illicit web sites and e-mail with other 'friends' lets say. What next

You will try and keep the marriage together if there are kids, your mental state will tell you she will stop its just a phase etc. The mind plays tricks, you will ruminate, it will slowly grind you down and lead to depression. Then like me you will do something silly like clout the lying stranger she has become. You will then get a 9 month probation order. You will then go to probation every week for those 9 months and be treated like any other wife beater which you are not. You will become disollusioned and then along with the depression and all the lies and the probation officer putting you down you will flip...the police will be called and you will have made threats to kill infront of a cracking witness known as ' the probation officer'. You will be arrested and sent to jail for a week to cool off.

Yes thats me dont let it be you.

Fit a keylogger to the computer, tap the phone whatever but as soon as you are convinced she has done the dirty drop it, ditch her and move on...i am living proof buddy she just aint worth it but only time and mistakes will make you realise.

A.

Everyone, thank you for the replies, keep em coming, they all help me

ath007...wow...sorry mate to hear your troubles. I'll be watching out for the signs & symptoms you had and avoid them.

But like I've said before I have come to terms that she is cheating and I'm not suffering or grieving like I did last time.
I'm looking ahead and thinking of life without her that's where my mind is also on how to go about a divorce & come out in one piece.

To fill in the next part of the "clandestine operation" the information won't eat me as I am 99% sure what is going on and I am already looking forward to a different life, one without her... it's just the mystery of how I'm going to get there.

I'm thinking what's ahead and I want to be one step ahead this time so I will be installing these devices just for my own sake of mind. Also if I have to go through with a "chat" with her I can safely say "and where were you on Tuesday at 13:00?" start showing some facts to her to break her down.... letting her know that I know.

I'll keep you all updated on the outcome and my findings.

All the best,

GD

fit those devices and seek peace of mind.

I would confront my soon to be x with information and evidence but she would just deny everything. This is where the frustration builds, you just won't be getting answers so the answers MUST therefore come from elsewhere(keylogger etc).
You know the ironic thing in all this...i actually had to go to prison to be heard. In there i was visited by a councillor and we had time to talk and she listened and gave a good argument with reasoning. The probation service should have realised that i needed a councillor but no i was drafted into the rehabillitation program - big mistake.

Don't let things get to you, easy for me to say i know.

green door, if you confront her like a copper, ie, where were you on such a day at such a time, she will be very defensive and very angry, I doubt she will just sit there and confess all. She will get angry and your fight will up a degree each time, via the legal system, but remember, what ever decision you make and what ever you will be right for you.

Hi Greendoor,

I know exactly how you're feeling, you know whats going on but cant quite believe it, I used to think its was all in my mind. My husband started to hide his phone carried it everywhere even the shower he locked it with a pin so I knew something was not right. I grew even more suspicious when he was going out to work on nights at 3pm, said it was to go to the works gym. He starting taking more of an interest in his appearance buying new underwear, aftershave and face creams of all things.

I followed his car I just needed one little bit of proof he wasnt where he said he was. I wrote down all his comings and goings. Yes it did send me a bit neurotic and it was my main focus for a while but I felt it was worth it for my own piece of mind. When I found out where his car was I went over just to check my computer wasnt wrong, and yes he was there.

I confronted him last week and he just looked in disbelief at all the info I had got. Of course he said it was all made up and I was seeing things, but I know what I saw, I admitted to him I had followed him to work once and he said I was "a very sad person" to do that. But it made it clearer in my mind he was seeing someone, and I had proof he was telling me all these lies.

Good luck and take care

Littlecloud x