On the verge

i've tried calling his mobile but it must be off. he's also not on msn so i bet its her.
she has also made him call me i can hear her in the background which has really upset me.
she keeps begging me to come home and talk but i wont because there is no point.
this is hard work and i'm taking each minute as it comes.
thanks everyone

Just keep your cool Sonning. Kids are tougher than you think and things will settle in time.

When my wife walked out, my stepson,(who was nearly 15 at the time) was hugging me and crying and saying he wanted to stay with me. It's just a very difficult time, but he came through ok in the end.

Jim.

thanks i just wish i could get in touch with him. we have talked a lot about this so he knows how i feel and that he will live with me. its just that horrible sick feeling of not knowing what shes saying to him.

How old is he?

14
edit: just got him online...pheww msn is a lifesaver

he seems ok and i called one of her friends and they are going to see her.
I told them that it was over and that she wont accept it and keeps calling and calling.

Hopefully it will help her to have someone to talk to. I would rather her hate me right now than the begging and pleading.

It must be so hard for him, my children are too young to understand what is happening really. Your son will feel awful especially if she is sharing how she feels with him as it sounds she is. He really needs to know he is loved by both of you and not pressured to love one more than the other.

Hopefully when your wife calms down she will realise this too. All you can do is text your son - tell him you are there for him if he needs to talk and that you do not want him to feel he has to take sides, you both love him and it is not anything to do with him.

Good luck


Cat

Glad you got hold of him mate.

All you can do now is get your own place sorted and go from there.