On the verge

Update time

Now have a new home and things are finally starting to fall into place.
Its been the battle to end all battles and i've faced endless problems and feel like i've been run over a few times.
I now have over £4000 of ex's debts to pay after she upped our overdraft to the max and took out all the money !
The company i work for have been brilliant and even acting as guarantors for me so i can rent a place.

My son is coming home today and his bedroom is nearly finished and i cant wait to show him the new place.

and !

ive managed to get hold of a new TV for free !

So to anyone whos reading this and thinking about splitting or going through the hell that is separation it can get better if you make it.
Its not easy and my best way of describing it is like stepping of a cliff. The hardest part is the first step then just hang on for the ride of your life.

I've still got a lot of battles to face and i'm sleeping 10 - 11 hours a day i'm that tired but i finally feel like i'm on the road to recovery.

Well Sonning you seem to have accomplised a lot in 2 weeks!

My husband left 7 months ago to live with new woman. I am at home coping with 2 angry teenagers and my own feelings. I earn a pittance, I don't think I can afford to maintain this house indefinitely, the future seems very scary. But I am only just feeling strong enough to address the practical difficulties, as I have been through emotional hell.

You seem to be fairly sorted.

I have a lot to do still including paying off over £4000 of her debts.

She is also desperate to get my new address and i dont feel she is stable enough. My concern is that she will turn up and create a scene which i am going to avoid at all costs.
Unless directed to by the courts i will not divulge my new address to her.

I'm getting there but a long road is ahead with many pot holes to avoid along the way.

Is he paying you any kind of maintenance or anything towards the mortgage?
If not then get on to the CSA and talk to your lender and see if you can work out a plan before it gets any worse.