well you were right

Making an effort is never weak. Running away is weak. It is so much easier to mess things up than to work hard to find a way to fix something.

I forget who said it but there is a wonderful quote... "If you break something, it can be put together again, but it is never the same again." That says a lot about trust.

Dont beat yourself up, hold your head high, because you did try.

Hi Tom321,

Having the guts and determination to try and work at saving your marriage takes a far better person, than the one that acts as if they are a rabbit caught in headlights. You have nothing to be ashamed of, you did what most of us wanted to try and do and that was to work things through.

Who knows if your STBX will ever look back in years to come and realise what a sad mess she left behind, wishing now that she took the many chances you gave her? Only time will tell, but in the here and now you can hold you head high knowing full well you did you all you possibly could to try to resolve things...it is her failure that she did not take the chance, for the path of divorce is a long and hard one, not for the fainthearted, one day she will waken up ,and realise that the green grass she went in search of turns out to be a muddy field of sh!t.

Take care for now FoS x