fun - stupid things an stbx can say

i came home to a letter from work telling me he no longer loved me,had been having a affair for 2 and half yrs with work colleague,did not want this life and wanted a nice retirement,its not you its me,i just want to be happy,the house looked as if a burgalary had taken place,all his belongings gone-including personal certificates off walls,i phone him on his mobile in complete shock as i just did not have any idea- we had been planning for our retirement or so i thought- he answers by saying-hiya "what do you want"!!!!.......

Some of these are so funny, they're actually sad! I guess people who makes excuses about their unfaithfulness don't come up with many original lines!

My stbx shipped some fishing rods to my mother's house in the US last year so he could fish while we were on holiday. They're still at her house, and one of the first things he asked me when I discovered his affair and we were having it out, was 'can I get my fishing rods back from your mum's??' WTF! Wasn't at all worried what his parents were going to say about the affair, or my family...

We made up an agreement for all the furniture in the house just last week - he gets the marital bed...he said they'd put it in their second bedroom...and it needs a new mattress...not because I'd slept on it, he said. Stupid idiot!

SHE sent me an email after I'd messaged a few of his co-workers at the hospital, asking if they knew about the affair (my stbx and his new woman work together). She told me to ask her if I wanted to know anything about her because she has NOTHING TO HIDE!

After I responded kindly to that one, telling her I felt sorry for both of us, getting involved with such a jerk, she emailed again, sorry to have caused me 'any upset', emotions are running high for both of us (right), she'd only had good intentions...towards whom? Certainly not me...

Many, many years ago, when we were newly married, my stbx gave me a little card on Valentines Day that said "this is just a reminder that I love you". When he gave it to me he said that I could keep that now so he wouldn't have to tell me again. I don't think he ever bought me another Valentines card and he was very cold and unemotional, very rarely telling me he loved me. He blamed it on his upbringing but did claim to love me and we were together for 34 years.

Maybe that was the first hint of what was to come. If I'd known then what I know I would have run a mile......

Baileysoriginal99 wrote:

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Why would anyone think that someone who felt the need to get blind drunk whilst with on holiday with you was 'funny'? Sounds like he was a very unhappy bloke to me.........And Im pretty sure I read in another thread that you were not prepared to further 'wash your dirty laundry in public'....however, here you go again, scrubbing away Always easy to attack someone when they arent present to defend themselves isnt it.

Laughing Gal,

This is not a supportive stance to take. People have a need to let out their issues in this complex and emotionally draining process and sometimes the boundaries of what is acceptable to person A is not acceptable to person B become blurred.

Unless you are directly involved in this situation, it is not really appropriate to express such an opinion or make such a direct comment.

Mike

Member of much maligned TeamWiki

LG

You may not agree with Bailey's stance on the last post you and she were involved with, neither did I. However that does not mean that you are entitled to make offensive and personal comments about someone you have never met.

I have noted the mods comments about people who have less than 10 posts being new to the site and thus not in a good place mentally. Equally it may be that you simply do not understand the ethos of the site.

The idea is to give support and advice, any criticism should be constructive and give reasons why the poster feels the original author/OP is misguided are wrong.

The site is not for cheap shots about a person's character or actions. Please desist.

Ursa Major wrote:

The site is not for cheap shots about a person's character or actions.

Unfortunately this happens from time to time and such "sniping" at "older" members appears to be missed by the masses

E