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Children 12.1k topics

Divorce can have a big impact on children. Discuss approaches for communicating with your children and ways to maintain the normality in their lives.
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	Child Support 1610 topics Here you can discuss all aspects of child support, including child maintenance issues and your experience of the Child Support Agency.	Re: Child Support / Company Car by WYSPECIAL 13 Jul 25
	Contact and Residency 6637 topics Who will the kids live with and how often will the non-resident parent see them? Here you can discuss parental responsibility, residency and contact.	Parenting after divorce - shar ... by PADSstudy 04 Jun 25
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	Child Maintenance Clinic 517 topics This forum area enables members to interact with consultants from the government's child maintenance options service. Unfortunately, they will not be able to answer any specific questions on individual CSA cases.	Re: paying maintenance once child ... by NeedhelpDad 04 Sep 25

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Pick up from school as per court order Hello! I now have the court order which states that “Father and no-one else picks the child from school 3 days a week and cares for her until she returns ... 12 Mar 15, by Besselsleigh Latest 13 Mar 15 by somuch2know2 1 2	Replies:12 :904	Latest by somuch2know2 13 Mar 15
Alcoholic wife, what happens to kids? Hi all I''m in the process of divorcing my alcoholic wife after twelve years of marriage. We have four kids 11yrs to 4yrs. At the moment I''m ... 12 Mar 15, by DoItAllDad Locked Latest 13 Mar 15 by .Charles Locked	Replies:4 :514	Latest by .Charles 13 Mar 15
Withholding access. I''m posting on behalf of my partner He has a 7 year old daughter with his ex partner and they have been separated 6 years. The only arrangement my ... 06 Mar 15, by Nearly over Latest 11 Mar 15 by Nearly over	Replies:6 :417	Latest by Nearly over 11 Mar 15
Equal care - a judge''s view Hi All, Peace and love to all those Dads looking to carry on being the equal parent they''ve been since birth. I thought I''d drop my experien ... 11 Mar 15, by s59 Latest 11 Mar 15 by somuch2know2	Replies:3 :350	Latest by somuch2know2 11 Mar 15
Will the mortgage payments count or not ? We are currently using a Family based arrangement, where the minimum calculated CM is being paid alongside the mortgage, house insurance, mortgage protection. 06 Mar 15, by stainlesssink Latest 06 Mar 15 by TurboB	Replies:2 :342	Latest by TurboB 06 Mar 15
What will happen at first court hearing? Hi My partner has applied for contact as his children are refusing to see him (one is 18 so it''s only the 12 year old he is applying for). He ... 03 Mar 15, by Vass3006 Latest 03 Mar 15 by MrsMathsisfun	Replies:3 :337	Latest by MrsMathsisfun 03 Mar 15
Advice please on how court handles abuse Hi All My first post so I hope this is in the right place. I left my husband 2 years ago when I realised that I didn''t feel safe and didn''t ... 02 Mar 15, by AtoZed Latest 02 Mar 15 by AtoZed	Replies:2 :357	Latest by AtoZed 02 Mar 15
My rights Hi out there Hoping someone can help me with this question. I''m divorced and my 2 children (16 and 11) live with my ex wife in the FMH. We have recentl ... 02 Mar 15, by parrot0703 Latest 02 Mar 15 by parrot0703	Replies:2 :310	Latest by parrot0703 02 Mar 15
Comminucation Can someone please advise how to try and deal with Absolute zero communication from a parent with care. We are over 5 years post separation and divorce, both re ... 27 Feb 15, by broken tether Latest 01 Mar 15 by broken tether 1 2 3	Replies:14 :1114	Latest by broken tether 01 Mar 15
Emotional issues with visits to Dad I have been divorced for 5 years from my sons father. We had a shared residence order which often varied the number of nights between ourselves (mainly him aski ... 28 Feb 15, by daisydots Latest 28 Feb 15 by Mitchum	Replies:5 :372	Latest by Mitchum 28 Feb 15
Moving with my children Hello Just wondering if anyone has any words of advice. I am going through a divorce ( been separated 3 years). I have been with someone for the last 1 ... 26 Feb 15, by Honeybee17 Latest 27 Feb 15 by rubytuesday	Replies:1 :304	Latest by rubytuesday 27 Feb 15
Parent asking children to steal and using children I was about to take my daughters back to my ex when I noticed that they had both filled their bags with hair bands. The hairbands have been bought by m ... 25 Feb 15, by le_marv Latest 25 Feb 15 by elizadoolittle	Replies:6 :414	Latest by elizadoolittle 25 Feb 15
Is this really what i have too put up with ? Not a question just more of a rant ... Why do men feel the need to compete . I had taken kids to library as I usually do got books and one of my boys h ... 23 Feb 15, by Daisy39	Replies:0 :322
Ex changing contact So consent is almost done but as part of negotiations I refused a demand for a raise in maintenance from her having paid an amount over CMO calculator for three ... 21 Feb 15, by rajpoot Latest 23 Feb 15 by rajpoot 1 2	Replies:9 :683	Latest by rajpoot 23 Feb 15
my ex wants to move with our child she has dropped this bombshell on me yesterday, I see my 4 year old girl 3 times a week and now the ex wants to move to a town far away ''for a fresh start'' an ... 30 Jan 15, by mike6969con Latest 20 Feb 15 by somuch2know2	Replies:5 :453	Latest by somuch2know2 20 Feb 15
Been made redundant HI, I put post about performance bonus on here per the weekend. Monday morning go to work and get told i am being made redundant with immedia ... 11 Feb 15, by Biffa01 Latest 19 Feb 15 by Fiona	Replies:3 :302	Latest by Fiona 19 Feb 15
Bit of advice needed.... I have a residence order in my favour, with contact for the children''s dad. He has access twice a week. Soon, I have to go away with my uni course on a residen ... 19 Feb 15, by charlie35	Replies:0 :268
Incorrect court order Well you couldn''t make it up. My ex abandoned our children and cut a long story short it ended up court and the final hearing was the other week. One c ... 24 Nov 14, by Ninjakartdad Latest 17 Feb 15 by Steven Wade	Replies:3 :896	Latest by Steven Wade 17 Feb 15
How does shared care work in practice? Has anyone out there got any positive experiences of shared care? I have been the main care provider for fifteen years (kids are 15,12 and 10) as my ex leaves h ... 30 Jan 15, by Jiz Latest 17 Feb 15 by WYSPECIAL	Replies:4 :361	Latest by WYSPECIAL 17 Feb 15
Help needed Me and the wife have separated recently. She refuses me contact with my 3yr old daughter because I will not supply her my new address. Story so far ... 12 Feb 15, by gettingdivorced101 Latest 13 Feb 15 by gettingdivorced101	Replies:5 :340	Latest by gettingdivorced101 13 Feb 15
disappearing post? I wrote a post for advice on contact and residence here earlier and it seems to have disappeared? Has it been put somewhere else or did I do something wrong by ... 10 Feb 15, by Pippa1234 Locked Latest 10 Feb 15 by rubytuesday Locked	Replies:1 :323	Latest by rubytuesday 10 Feb 15
What is reasonable contact? Hi all, I''ve been separated over 2 years,together for 15 and just starting the divorce process. We have a severely disabled child (age 14, but much like a baby ... 08 Feb 15, by JINTY42 Latest 09 Feb 15 by JINTY42	Replies:4 :479	Latest by JINTY42 09 Feb 15
Is performance bonus taken into consideration Hi, I will get a performance related bonus at the end of the year through my hard work. Does the CSA take this into account? At the m ... 06 Feb 15, by Biffa01 Latest 09 Feb 15 by Biffa01 1 2 3	Replies:14 :2614	Latest by Biffa01 09 Feb 15
Housing need - adult children still at home I am four years into an acrimonious divorce and now realise why my stbx has dragged his heels. He currently lives in a property (1 bed flat) bought & paid f ... 08 Feb 15, by TFI Latest 08 Feb 15 by MrsMathsisfun	Replies:6 :499	Latest by MrsMathsisfun 08 Feb 15
mediation and children desperate for those of you who have followed my previous posts, well he has finally done it stbx that is. letter from solicitor going to seek custody of 11 year o ... 04 Feb 15, by mumof 3 Latest 07 Feb 15 by Larry legal	Replies:6 :347	Latest by Larry legal 07 Feb 15
Arrangements for visits Hi Can anyone help, my STBX lives in America with new gf and is making arrangements for the children 16 and 13 to go visit in school holidays. I''m fine wit ... 05 Feb 15, by Lymm	Replies:0 :263
Mediation....Contact Orders...??? If there''s a Contact Order in place which states what, and how, child access is to be but with no reference to me having to provide my annual leaves dates - wh ... 26 Jan 15, by Garmin Locked Latest 02 Feb 15 by Garmin Locked 1 2 3 4	Replies:27 :1389	Latest by Garmin 02 Feb 15
Shared care, a joke?! My soon to be ex is insisting on 6/14 nights with the kids although he works full time and I work part time around school hours and have always been their main ... 30 Jan 15, by Jiz Latest 30 Jan 15 by .Charles	Replies:1 :303	Latest by .Charles 30 Jan 15
Depression Hi Not sure if I can ask this but it''s been a year for us. My mum died last Christmas and was very close to my children. We were also supposed to be moving ... 28 Jan 15, by Lymm Latest 28 Jan 15 by Vastra1	Replies:1 :271	Latest by Vastra1 28 Jan 15
Legal obligations towards step children Hi All, Interested to know what the legal obligations are towards step children in a marriage that ends in divorce? Would CMS get involved as ... 27 Jan 15, by TurboB Latest 27 Jan 15 by Fiona	Replies:4 :299	Latest by Fiona 27 Jan 15
Stopping my ex moving away with my child Hi, I''ve got a major confrontation looming. After being divorced 2 years and all that time having my son stay with me 2 weeknights plus the usual 2 we ... 20 Jan 15, by Ferbin Latest 20 Jan 15 by rubytuesday	Replies:5 :315	Latest by rubytuesday 20 Jan 15
Picking up the kids Just after some general advice.. When we first parted the Stbx agreed that we would split transporting the children back and forth seeing as she decide ... 24 Nov 14, by NWGuy Latest 19 Jan 15 by Fiona 1 2	Replies:10 :888	Latest by Fiona 19 Jan 15
Divorcing without a contact or financial order. Hi My husband refuses to divorce me even though he left me... Currently he pays no spousal and very little CM (barely within CSA guidelines and without show ... 13 Jan 15, by caitriona Latest 13 Jan 15 by caitriona	Replies:2 :312	Latest by caitriona 13 Jan 15
Please help, advice needed Hi I am currently seperated from my wife as she had an affair and is still with the guy. She informed me yesterday that she intends on introducing this pers ... 11 Jan 15, by anonymous2015 Latest 13 Jan 15 by Vastra1	Replies:5 :275	Latest by Vastra1 13 Jan 15
why do my children hate me 11 Jan 15, by mumof 3 Latest 12 Jan 15 by elizadoolittle 1 2	Replies:13 :1137	Latest by elizadoolittle 12 Jan 15
parental responsibilty ? Hi My third and final question ( for today anyway ) . Stbex has just announced he wants parental responsibity discussed at mediation forgive me as ... 11 Jan 15, by Daisy39 Latest 12 Jan 15 by Fiona	Replies:3 :273	Latest by Fiona 12 Jan 15
Help!! I don''t know what to do I am a 44 yr old man and have been co-habiting with my soon to be ex-partner for the past 19 years. We have four Children aged 2, 4, 16, and 18. Her alcohol ... 08 Jan 15, by ConcernedDad Latest 09 Jan 15 by beatle	Replies:2 :454	Latest by beatle 09 Jan 15
Help I have a nine year old child. Though I am together with her father we do not cohabit. She lives with us separately half a week each and this has been the arrang ... 06 Jan 15, by Bad mother Latest 08 Jan 15 by pixy 1 2	Replies:13 :805	Latest by pixy 08 Jan 15
Where do I go from here My vstbx and I have been trying to work out the financial situation when she drops the bombshell that the person she has not been seeing are now going to buy a ... 05 Jan 15, by thecrazy1 Latest 06 Jan 15 by fluffyninja 1 2	Replies:8 :815	Latest by fluffyninja 06 Jan 15
Non "consistent" parenting. . .? Hi & Happy New Year Not sure if I have a genuine viable concern here or if I am being over sensitive. Divorced 2 years, separated 3. E ... 05 Jan 15, by zodiac Latest 06 Jan 15 by fluffyninja	Replies:6 :347	Latest by fluffyninja 06 Jan 15

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